Well it’s 2 weeks late but I figure I might as well get the birth story down before I forget all about it. First off, I was dilated to 4 cm at my last drs appt and had been having contractions on and off for weeks. To say I was frustrated was an understatement. My OB kept saying that he couldn’t believe I was still pregnant and offered me an induction any time I felt like it. Said all I needed to do was show up at the hospital in the morning and since most people at 4 cm are in active labor, he’d admit me and then induce. I REALLY didn’t want to do that. I’m not a huge believer in inductions at maternal request. I figured she’d come when she was good and ready but DAMN, it was tempting.
But instead, a little after midnight the legit contractions started. Just like with Sweetness, they never developed any real consistent patterns. I, being a wonderful wife, let the hubby sleep in until 6. We called my mom and left for the hospital around 7.
Here is where I find the differences between Sweetness and A’s delivery so amazing. The hospital I delivered at has a reputation as pushing medical procedures and being a factory. With Sweetness, I got to the hospital at 8 cm and started pushing right after that. They offered me an epidural, which I graciously accepted ;-), but that was the extent of it. This time around, I wasn’t as far along, and had 2 different OB’s attending to me at different points. One, the doc on call but not from my practice, said she didn’t want to break my water right away and I should labor for an hour or two and then we’d re-assess. The other doc from my practice came in about a half hour later and said “let’s get this baby out”. She broke my water and I had to fight her to not start the P.itocin. When I mentioned what the other dr had said, she told me that she probably wanted to see her morning patients in the office and deliver me around lunch. She then said that she had nothing but Paps that morning and would rather do this. Crazy how it really all does come down to the doctors and their scheduling. But I was fine with speeding things along.
I got my epidural a little bit later and this was another BIG difference. With Sweetness I asked him to set the epidural so I could still feel the contractions and would know when to push. He did and when I had a contraction it was like “huh, there’s a contraction.” This time around I asked the same thing and I guess it shows just how subjective pain management is. I could most definitely feel each one and it really just took the edge off.
Luckily though the delivery was COMPLETELY different, and in a good way. With Sweetness I pushed for 2.5 hrs and ended up with a vacuum delivery and an e.pisitomy. This one slipped on out in under 10 minutes with minor tearing. It has made a HUGE difference in the recovery and how I’m feeling now.
Baby A is just amazing. She’s about as perfect as a newborn can be. She latched on perfectly and has been so easy to nurse. And except for some recent cluster feeding, she gives me a 3.5 hr chunk each night. Doesn’t sound like much but I know it can be MUCH worse!
More to come later, with some questions on how we can help Sweetness adjust to big sisterhood
So apparently I wasn’t as good at this updating you all as I intended to be. Thanks for all your support and understanding about the whole due date/miscarriage anniversary.
Definitely nothing that I can control though. Baby girl flew into this world at lightening speed Friday nov 5. She’s perfect in every single way. The 6th marks the anniversary. I guess this just means the birthday candles on the cake hold multiple meanings
The heart’s capacity to love is truly amazing.